Thanks everyone, all very good advice and tons to chew on. I'll filter out the best and use it. Thanks for the link to a divorce lawyer by the way, had to giggle over that one. Bottom line is my wife thinks there is something wrong with me because I own a handgun. She may never get it, but I think the best approach (as in most things in life) is to be open and honest. In a nut shell, that I enjoy shooting and that the gun offers added protection as I care about her welfare. If the shrink doesn't like it; "that I have an LTC in MA (one of the most difficult states in the country to obtain), that I have been vetted fairly heavily, taken an arms safety course and been deemed by the state to be qualified to carry." I seriously doubt it will get into a 2A pissing match. This issue is not about politics so much as it is about my wife not understanding. Guns threaten and scare her, as most things in life one is ignorant about will tend to do. I have seen this therapist probably 10 times in the last year and a half, and I trust her regardless of her politics. My wife and I have a solid and open relationship, one of the reasons we both agree to go to a therapist to begin with. It allows us to air our garbage and offers her an opportunity to ask why I feel the need to have a gun. Being open and honest about it I hope will allay some of her fears. I'm happy to offer to take her to the range and try and de-demonize the whole thing, but she is fairly stubborn and I suspect this might not work. I think the best course is to just keep it simple (stupid). It may, as some of you have suggested, boil down to a simple agree to disagree thing. In the larger picture among the myriad of issues one faces in marriage, this is a minor blip for us, and I thank you all for your sage wisdom. I'll let everyone know how it goes once the shrinking is complete.
Cheers,