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Man this is one wild thread...
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You need to tell her that she needs to get her license as well, take the training and make the application for her license.
She needs to be able to take control of (and responsibility for) the guns in the house when you're not home. Or if they're in your car. She should be able to handle them safely. Take her to a very nice and clean range for the training, such as Mass Firearms School.
I think she'll come around, at least enough to tolerate the situation.Im rooting for you brother!
Most people don't take well to being told what to do and from the OPs description of his wife 'being told' what to do will go over like a lead balloon with his wife and probably damage their relationship even more. From the sounds of it she is very controlling. It's his marriage so I wont pass judgment on it just point out the obvious fail in suggestions like this one.
There's your answer. Just tell her you're protecting the dogs, if she asks.I think she'll come around, at least enough to tolerate the situation.
I've joked with her about what would be required for her to pick up a revolver right beside her for defense purposes.
It starts in a hostage standoff with Abdullah and a knife to my throat.
He saws my head off with a dull blade.
She makes no move for the gun.
But as soon as he makes a move to harm one of the golden retrievers ... she empties the gun into him.
She thinks hurting one of the dogs is what it would take ...
LOL don't mistake my lack of tact in wording a post for a suggestion on how OP ought to approach his wife.
Shoot, Quiet. I'll pay good money to watch you approach your wife with your lack of tact.
I think she'll come around, at least enough to tolerate the situation.
I've joked with her about what would be required for her to pick up a revolver right beside her for defense purposes.
It starts in a hostage standoff with Abdullah and a knife to my throat.
He saws my head off with a dull blade.
She makes no move for the gun.
But as soon as he makes a move to harm one of the golden retrievers ... she empties the gun into him.
She thinks hurting one of the dogs is what it would take ...
OP, I stewed on this after editing my original reaction, but it needs to be said. This is going to sound harsh, but i think you need to hear it.
Who in the **** are you calling ladies dude? You better soak up all the advice you can get in this thread before she takes away your internet privileges for the night and delegates you back to kitchen bitch duties. You need to reach down in your apron and grab hold of that floppy little piece of dead epidermis between your drumsticks and kindly tell this lady to go make you a sandwich, and allow me to digress for one second, i dont mean a ****in little PBJ or anything, I'm talking one of them big ****ers subway makes for superbowl parties and shit bro. You need to march your ass down to the gun store, with her credit card, tomorrow, and buy a Barrett M107 or a solothurn or some shit, call up bravo concealment, or go to the saddle shop, and have them make you a custom OWB holster for that shit, pop a handful of viagra and march around your house carrying that shit with no pants on for the next month. IF she can't deal, it wasn't meant to be bro, seriously. Now I'm by no means a tough guy or badass, especially with women, and granted you've been married since i was like 7 years old, but the game dont change with age dude, you still need to put your man pants on, at least on occasion and say "bitch, sandwich." My lady accomplice told me once, just once, early on in our living together that if i bought another gun she was going to leave me because i "had enough", the next day i brought home $3,000 rifle just to see if she had the balls, but i already knew the answer to that question, nope, because I wear the manpants. Obviously I am jesting a little here bro, and please dont misjudge me for a sexist douche or anything, but dude real talk for a minute, if you are really truly interested in something and she refuses to accept you for who you are, it just isn't going to work, you are going to die a miserable old bastard hating her someday if you dont put a kabosh on this shit stat. Relationships are all about compromises dude, judging from your OP, she needs to give a little, cuz she somehow won the life lottery and got herself a great dude who will literally go to hell (MA) for her.
Im rooting for you brother!
divorce. run bro.
seriously though if you've been married for 20 years the last place you want to get relationship advice is NES.
Surely there are worse things in life ...don't know you so I can't judge but you sound institutionalized man.
I don't believe in "symmetrical" relationships. I think the world is littered with broken marriages where each party was willing to meet the other exactly half way, and not an inch more.It's great that you bend over backwards for her and you should but It sounds like you think it's your purpose of existence.
She gives the dogs unconditional love in a way she doesn't give any human being, and they give it right back. The dogs are our surrogate children. We call them our "furry babies". Many of her decisions are emotion based, and this is one area where emotions rule absolutely. If she had actual children, I'm certain that she'd care about them more than me. Why be mad about something neither of you can change?You're convinced she cares more about the dogs than you and you accept that?
Anyone can make a marriage last if they lose their spine to do it. The question is can you do it? Are you gonna snap? Is it going to be ugly? You can either try to make it better and risk divorce or let this get ugly and die miserable.
Surely there are worse things in life ... I don't believe in "symmetrical" relationships. I think the world is littered with broken marriages where each party was willing to meet the other exactly half way, and not an inch more.
The problem with these relationships is that both sides usually have a different idea about where that midpoint lies. I think successful relationships usually depend on having at least one person that's willing to go very far past the midfield stripe to make the relationship work. I decided a long time ago that I wanted to be that person.
She gives the dogs unconditional love in a way she doesn't give any human being, and they give it right back. The dogs are our surrogate children. We call them our "furry babies". Many of her decisions are emotion based, and this is one area where emotions rule absolutely. If she had actual children, I'm certain that she'd care about them more than me. Why be mad about something neither of you can change?
The purpose of this thread was to seek advice on ways to preserve my 2a rights and also a marriage. I've gotten some great ideas here, but suggestions to "grow a pair" or pistol whip her into submission are not the ones I value.
I have no intention of being or staying miserable. I will always have the power to bring about a change in the relationship, even if that means ending it. But before I even consider that step, I have to have an idea about what's next. It's all to easy to jump from the frying pan into the fire.
It's taken months of work but now I'm pretty sure I will find things to enjoy about living in Massachusetts. If my brother could do it for over 10 years with his second wife in a rathole of a house and an armpit of a town (New Bedford), I like my chances in Ludlow.
Of course, he's the real relationship expert. He's working on his third marriage and I haven't even finished my first one yet ...
The only time wives or girlfriends should come up on NES is when a good one like Notrucksallowed's wife who bought him a new Kahr just cause it rained that day (rained a million times for me and I get dick) or Basscatfrank's who let him choose anything for Xmas. Another good time is when you are like 90% of us with normal human SO's and you get to talk about sneaking new guns into the house. 9% of the guys who say their girlfriends are totally cool with the splurges are either rich, dating a tranny and don't know it, or in too new of a relationship where she will still put up with his BS.
don't know you so I can't judge but you sound institutionalized man. It's great that you bend over backwards for her and you should but It sounds like you think it's your purpose of existence. You use words like "beg". You're convinced she cares more about the dogs than you and you accept that?
If you buckle under her pressure, you are doing HER a disservice and are not being her better half. You let it get this far.
Growing a pair is the best thing you can do for the both of you. That doesn't mean to be a dick but to draw boundaries and respect hers. Have a strong opinion.
Anyone can make a marriage last if they lose their spine to do it. The question is can you do it? Are you gonna snap? Is it going to be ugly?
You can either try to make it better and risk divorce or let this get ugly and die miserable.
I find it funny that you have specifically asked for advice from ladies, and 98% of the responses are from guys. Lol
You need to post more!I find it funny that you have specifically asked for advice from ladies, and 98% of the responses are from guys. Lol
You need to post more!