I know that most of us here only have to worry about the wrath of a wife learning about the purchase of yet another firearm. My marriage of 20 years is a good deal more complicated than that.
I love my wife in spite of her being an Obama loving / gun hating liberal.
There, I said it. In spite of these inconvenient truths, I have to work on completing our move to PRMA and preserving the marriage.
A thousand posters here have already warned "don't move!!!" but the die is cast. I'll be moving to PRMA because that's where her big new job is. We'll also have a big new house that she'll pay for with her big new paycheck.
For almost the entirety of our marriage, firearms have been locked up on one sort of gun safe or another. I never felt the need to go gun shopping in North Carolina or Rhode Island because I knew I could pretty much have whatever I wanted whenever I wanted it.
That's all going to change in PRMA, so I've done a lot of shopping in prep for the move for stuff I won't be able to purchase when I get there (which is about everything worth having ...)
That was the easy part, because I've simply not told her about the purchases. Out of sight, out of mind.
Once we get to PRMA, things will be different. We're moving to a "Green" town (Ludlow), and I've got the basic gun course training and paperwork all planned. She knows that I have to get the training and the LTC-A just to have the 15-round Ruger P85 which I purchased in 1989 back in North Carolina.
What I have to figure out is how to manage the meltdown that's coming when she realizes that I plan to try out some concealed carrying.
There's been enough shouting over the move itself to wreck more than one marriage. Telling her in advance of my plans ... I don't even want to think about it.
I'm waiting until after the move to spring this on her because then she'll be so busy with the new job and the distraction level will be so great that I might be able to pull this off and still be married.
So this very long post has laid the groundwork to get to this point, which is the point where I ask for ideas as to whether there is any way to "ease into" this subject with her.
I thought about wearing an empty holster around the house to begin with. That would certainly get her attention. I could say that I was just "practicing" wearing a holster.
Then I could move up from there to a real but unloaded gun. Or maybe I would have to go with a water-pistol as an intermediate step?
Having a holstered and loaded firearm in the house would be the last step before going out in the world CCW with one on your hip.
At some point I have to tell her that I want to be one of the 1,000+ people in Ludlow walking around concealed. She's not going to like it, and I don't know if there are any diplomatic concessions that would make a difference.
It's not going to be pretty, but I'm trying to come up with some way of making it manageable.
I love my wife in spite of her being an Obama loving / gun hating liberal.
There, I said it. In spite of these inconvenient truths, I have to work on completing our move to PRMA and preserving the marriage.
A thousand posters here have already warned "don't move!!!" but the die is cast. I'll be moving to PRMA because that's where her big new job is. We'll also have a big new house that she'll pay for with her big new paycheck.
For almost the entirety of our marriage, firearms have been locked up on one sort of gun safe or another. I never felt the need to go gun shopping in North Carolina or Rhode Island because I knew I could pretty much have whatever I wanted whenever I wanted it.
That's all going to change in PRMA, so I've done a lot of shopping in prep for the move for stuff I won't be able to purchase when I get there (which is about everything worth having ...)
That was the easy part, because I've simply not told her about the purchases. Out of sight, out of mind.
Once we get to PRMA, things will be different. We're moving to a "Green" town (Ludlow), and I've got the basic gun course training and paperwork all planned. She knows that I have to get the training and the LTC-A just to have the 15-round Ruger P85 which I purchased in 1989 back in North Carolina.
What I have to figure out is how to manage the meltdown that's coming when she realizes that I plan to try out some concealed carrying.
There's been enough shouting over the move itself to wreck more than one marriage. Telling her in advance of my plans ... I don't even want to think about it.
I'm waiting until after the move to spring this on her because then she'll be so busy with the new job and the distraction level will be so great that I might be able to pull this off and still be married.
So this very long post has laid the groundwork to get to this point, which is the point where I ask for ideas as to whether there is any way to "ease into" this subject with her.
I thought about wearing an empty holster around the house to begin with. That would certainly get her attention. I could say that I was just "practicing" wearing a holster.
Then I could move up from there to a real but unloaded gun. Or maybe I would have to go with a water-pistol as an intermediate step?
Having a holstered and loaded firearm in the house would be the last step before going out in the world CCW with one on your hip.
At some point I have to tell her that I want to be one of the 1,000+ people in Ludlow walking around concealed. She's not going to like it, and I don't know if there are any diplomatic concessions that would make a difference.
It's not going to be pretty, but I'm trying to come up with some way of making it manageable.
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