Couple things...
I LOVE that the firearms community has embraced "let the lady choose her own weapon" - but i think it's notable that this is a "it looks good online, how is it in real life" question and not a "what gun for the little lady" question. So with that in mind...
... I don't think a gal looking for a mostly HD weapon would be long term happy with a tiny pocket pistol in that role... unless she already had a lot of experience, in which case she wouldn't be asking the question.
If recoil sensitivity is an issue- and she wont / cant be training to master it- I think the 22 wmr option is a better suggestion than the p32. I've a gal friend with tiny hands and significant skeletal/joint problems that preclude standard handguns. She LOVES the KelTec PMR 30... and FOR HER its a great choice.
... there's few feelings worse than standing in the dark, hearing the bad guy outside, and having no confidence in your weapon. I'd hate for her to have that feeling.