Honestly I wouldn't have started with the name calling anyway. I understand that she has had a great loss, and I don't have that kind of weight on my own back. But would you say that because of the loss she should have a free hand to do whatever she thinks might make her feel a little better? Her feelings, as hurt as they are do not EVER stand in front of my rights. I feel terrible for her loss, especially as it was her son doing the right thing, but that gives her no right to infringe on my ability to live my life. So until it is clear to her she is wrong here, or this is thrown out and she is chastised for it, she is the enemy, and I will not back away from that position. We can't afford to feel bad for our enemies.