Women's instinctive behavior in the face of hostility is to placate and then submit. This strategy conferred a reproductive advantage relative to women who fought, which is why women do it.After the Christchurch attacks, Ardern did a lot of things right. She wore a headscarf when visiting the local Muslim community. She opened the next parliamentary session with the Arabic message of peace, "As-Salaam Alaikum." And she refused to speak the attacker's name. Her message: I am on the side of the Muslim victims. And: Muslims belong to us.
Men who attempt to placate and then submit to the mercy of other men are generally not so successful, which is why men's instinctive behavior in the face of hostility is to attempt to establish dominance by force. Someone is going to end up face down in the ditch with their throat cut, better them than you.