Had to have a brief talk with my 3-year-old girl on Saturday.
As an intro, she has been talking a lot lately about death and killing etc. "Did they die?", "Did they get killed?", "Are they killed", etc. I am sure this is somewhat normal as kids this age don't understand what that really means. And they become fascinated with things mom and dead tell them not to talk about so much. Might have something to do with the animals shows I always watch with them. I don't have too much of an issue with this. She is just learning and being rather smart and inquisitive IMO.
So, I pick her up at Grandma's where she is with her 7-year-old boy cousin. Mythbusters is on the TV and it is the one where they are testing firing guns into the air and whether or not the returning bullet is lethal (they claimed it wasn't, but that is for another thread). She starts telling me what is going on on the show. That they have guns and bullets. That bullets can "killed" you (she never uses that word right). And she tops it off with guns and bullets are bad. When I got in closer with her she was kind of upset and said (the kicker) "no one should have them."
I was kind of floored. Especially because it made her emotional. Where do they get this crap? Me and her went for a ride alone shortly after and I talked with her about the gun thing and the death thing. I explained to her what death meant because she admitted she did not know (I am sure she doesn't understand it still). I related it to getting hurt and why Mom and Dad are always telling her to be careful, you can't do that, etc. I also said it is something we don't need to talk about/mention a lot and Mom and Dad are always there if she has questions or doesn't understand things and encouraged her to ask us anything and ensured her we can talk about anything.
On the gun end, I gave her the old guns are not bad, people can be bad. Used an analogy of her hitting her little sister with toy and how that didn't make the toy bad that made her/her actions bad. Gave her the good guy, bad guy talk and explained that lots of good guys have guns too - her Dad, police, etc - and that they are only bad if used badly by bad guys. I told her I would teach her more about them as she got older and gave her the ask questions lines again. She seemed to get it.
Didn't think I would have to talk about things like this so early.
Anything I missed, did wrong in your opinion, etc?
When did you guys have to start talking with your kids about these things?
As an intro, she has been talking a lot lately about death and killing etc. "Did they die?", "Did they get killed?", "Are they killed", etc. I am sure this is somewhat normal as kids this age don't understand what that really means. And they become fascinated with things mom and dead tell them not to talk about so much. Might have something to do with the animals shows I always watch with them. I don't have too much of an issue with this. She is just learning and being rather smart and inquisitive IMO.
So, I pick her up at Grandma's where she is with her 7-year-old boy cousin. Mythbusters is on the TV and it is the one where they are testing firing guns into the air and whether or not the returning bullet is lethal (they claimed it wasn't, but that is for another thread). She starts telling me what is going on on the show. That they have guns and bullets. That bullets can "killed" you (she never uses that word right). And she tops it off with guns and bullets are bad. When I got in closer with her she was kind of upset and said (the kicker) "no one should have them."
I was kind of floored. Especially because it made her emotional. Where do they get this crap? Me and her went for a ride alone shortly after and I talked with her about the gun thing and the death thing. I explained to her what death meant because she admitted she did not know (I am sure she doesn't understand it still). I related it to getting hurt and why Mom and Dad are always telling her to be careful, you can't do that, etc. I also said it is something we don't need to talk about/mention a lot and Mom and Dad are always there if she has questions or doesn't understand things and encouraged her to ask us anything and ensured her we can talk about anything.
On the gun end, I gave her the old guns are not bad, people can be bad. Used an analogy of her hitting her little sister with toy and how that didn't make the toy bad that made her/her actions bad. Gave her the good guy, bad guy talk and explained that lots of good guys have guns too - her Dad, police, etc - and that they are only bad if used badly by bad guys. I told her I would teach her more about them as she got older and gave her the ask questions lines again. She seemed to get it.
Didn't think I would have to talk about things like this so early.
Anything I missed, did wrong in your opinion, etc?
When did you guys have to start talking with your kids about these things?