I never said it was easyHmmm….
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I never said it was easyHmmm….
Bullshit.I disagree.
You can't walk away from crazy when crazy presents itself out of nowhere and the cops are knocking on or knocking DOWN your door.
It doesn't take two to get things to restraining order proportions, it only takes one mentally unstable, immature woman who has a fit of anger and decides to take it to the limits.
The guy is in legal jeopardy. He needs someone who can fix that.Easy said about hiring a Lawyer which is very expensive, Everyone seems to want to replay their option here. How about starting a GOFUNDME page and lets see how many people still want to back up their onion with a few bucks. I will be the first if you start one. your situation could happen to anyone that owns a self protection device.
Why should I contribute to a gofundme for this? It wasn't my willy getting wet.Easy said about hiring a Lawyer which is very expensive, Everyone seems to want to replay their option here. How about starting a GOFUNDME page and lets see how many people still want to back up their onion with a few bucks. I will be the first if you start one. your situation could happen to anyone that owns a self protection device.
Hiring a lawyer is not expensive. Have you ever hired one for some advice?Easy said about hiring a Lawyer which is very expensive, Everyone seems to want to replay their option here. How about starting a GOFUNDME page and lets see how many people still want to back up their onion with a few bucks. I will be the first if you start one. your situation could happen to anyone that owns a self protection device.
The problem with your position is that they are ALL crazy. They may be fine for 20 years (rare) but one day the switch flips and you are sleeping in your car with a restraining order and paying half your income for child support. Also while you pay for the house Tyrone and his buddies use to run a train on your wife.No dude. This is why people need to be smart and be able to walk away from crazy.
We also dont know the other side of the story, we don't know what the OP said, or how he treated his ex girlfriend.
Most of the time these things don't happen out of nowhere, it takes two to get this sh*t to the point of restraining orders. Very few times you will hear of a guy that is the nicest person in the world, a saint, and some chick just gets a restraining order on him for no reason.
I am not saying the OP is a bad person.
I wouldn't call them all crazy.The problem with your position is that they are ALL crazy. They may be fine for 20 years (rare) but one day the switch flips and you are sleeping in your car with a restraining order and paying half your income for child support. Also while you pay for the house Tyrone and his buddies use to run a train on your wife.
90% of men fall into one of two categories. Those that have been burned by a woman and those that haven’t been burned YET.
Ask how to delete his account.What would FishFinder do?
My divorce went smooth also. I shouldn’t have emphasized the restraining order, because that isn’t a prerequisite for crazy.I wouldn't call them all crazy.
My uncle got a divorce at age 60. They divided everything 50/50 no restraining order. They still attend all the family events and talk. 2 kids - but in their 30s.
Buddy of mine got a divorce, with a kid, at around age 35. No restraining order.
I was with a woman 9 years, got married, she went insane 5 months later and asked for a divorce. No restraining order. Although she might fit into your "all are crazy" category. But she even said we were not getting lawyers, filled the paperwork in an afternoon, paid $150, done. No kids.
My cousin got a divorce a few months back. She didn't get a restraining order on her ex. 2 kids.
My co-worler got a divorce last January, his wife didn't get a restraining order. 2 kids.
My second cousin divorced a few years back, no restraining order on her husband. In fact, she even introduced him to me for some business we did together. 1 kid (was over 18 at the time of divorce).
While a lot of women are pretty crazy, and a lot of dudes are f*cking idiots, can't say "ALL" - At least in my experience.
Sorry you have that view but......you don't know everybody. My wife's parents were married for 40 years until my FIL died of cancer.....happily......my parents were married for their lifetime.........both mine and my wife's grandparents.......same thing married once and married for life. My wife and I celebrated 27 years last August.....if Iisten to you I should be planning my escape. No thanks......I'm all set.The problem with your position is that they are ALL crazy. They may be fine for 20 years (rare) but one day the switch flips and you are sleeping in your car with a restraining order and paying half your income for child support. Also while you pay for the house Tyrone and his buddies use to run a train on your wife.
90% of men fall into one of two categories. Those that have been burned by a woman and those that haven’t been burned YET.
Still up because it is all BS.Four hours later, I'm curious why this thread is still up so every Tom, Dick, Harriet and ex-Bat Shit Crazy Girlfriend can read it. The very first post was "delete thread", very wise advice.
OP I’d plan on never getting your LTC back.
This exact same scenario happened to a buddy of mine who works at the sheriffs department and nothing he did, letters, crying, court, bitching ect.. ect.. ect… helped him. I’m not saying it’s a done deal but plan on it so your not completely in shock over it
Your right, but speaking from seeing it firsthand I’m just trying to let the OP know that the potential reality of this is not very good.that's pretty defeatist, IMHO if he gets good counsel he will get out of hte tunnel eventually, assuming of course theres no substance to the claims etc.
A more realistic thing is though, is the OP should understand.... thie battle might take YEARS. So theres that, but the sooner he gets moving on it the sooner he can get the shit
dealt with and move on.
Absolutely. The OP needs to assess how much he cares about ever getting his LTC back. In Mass the odds are not good but with out a good attorney the odds are near zero.The guy is in legal jeopardy. He needs someone who can fix that.
What logic can you defend that says he doesn't need a lawyer or that anyone suggesting the right course of action somehow takes on fiscal responsibility?
There's a continuum in personalities and though it's unlikely for a person to shift from one extreme to the other, I think it's highly probable that someone can shift from acceptable to unacceptable behavior especially after the honeymoon stage. Something like this:Bullshit.
In the early dating stages most of the personalities should have reared their ugly heads.
I know. I know. The sex was great.
My assessment would be that he needs to fight tooth and nail even if his LTC was just a whimAbsolutely. The OP needs to assess how much he cares about ever getting his LTC back. In Mass the odds are not good but with out a good attorney the odds are near zero.
Still up because it is all BS.
Your right, but speaking from seeing it firsthand I’m just trying to let the OP know that the potential reality of this is not very good.
If he is legit, I’m on his side as I would be with anyone in this type of situation, it’s awful but the danger of literally never being able to look at a gun again is absolutely real
We dated for 2. Lived together for 2 more. Will hit our 32 years married this Sept.There's a continuum in personalities and though it's unlikely for a person to shift from one extreme to the other, I think it's highly probable that someone can shift from acceptable to unacceptable behavior especially after the honeymoon stage. Something like this:
dull --> stable --> balanced --> moody --> excitable --> passionate --> volatile --> batshit f-ing crazy --> Amber Heard clone
Most everyone is on their best behavior in the early stages. IMHO it could take a year or two of dating to know how your SO is going to react to different scenarios and higher levels of stress.
Similar experience for us. 29th anniversary this year.We dated for 2. Lived together for 2 more. Will hit our 32 years married this Sept.
Was it perfect all the time? Hell no.
Beat me to itAs has been said, get a lawyer and delete this thread.
More specific to the OPs question. Assuming the TRO was dismissed when she didn't show up. The police will send you a letter revoking your LTC for suitability. It's up to you to appeal this. DO NOT GO INTO THAT COURTROOM WITHOUT A LAWYER. You will probably lose the first round anyway, but you need to set up for the second. Frankly, given MA, your chances aren't good. But without a lawyer they're less than zero.
Moving to NH is a legitimate option.