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Very wise decision on your part. A lot of these kids are really screwed up psychologically. If your foster or adopted child acts out and makes a threat in school, YOU will be the one who gets served with an ERPO. Who needs that grief?Having seen what some other families that I know have now gone through (not adoption) with regards to interactions with DCF (in Mass. and Conn.), I would never ever willingly allow those people into my house or into my life.
My wife has brought up adoption or fostering a few times, and I've always responded with a "Hell No, not in this state."
I would leave out hunting. Competition ONLY.I went through it 7 years ago, as KVX linked to it. It all depends on your case worker in regards to firearms. They have their own rules that are not necessarily the law. Best bet is remove them from the home until the adoption is final. Second best is jump through whatever hoops they throw at you. Ridiculous things, guns and ammo stored in separate rooms, etc.
Whatever you do, it's the best thing you'll ever do, just plug your nose and get through it. I don't regret one second ofthe garbage we went through to get our amazing son. PM me if I can answer any questions or if you need to vent about whatever they put you through.
One piece of advice. If you keep the guns, tell the case worker they are for hunting or competition, never self defense or protection.
were they not boycotting adoption by americans? don't remember the reason.Adopt a Chinese kid. They don't give a shit.
I would leave out hunting. Competition ONLY.
Adopt a Chinese kid. They don't give a shit.
Bring cash.
If worried leave them with a trusted friend or relative.
The guns are less of a hassle.The kid or the guns?
SOunds like probate and family court.... DCF litigates custody situations via Juvenile court. Entirely different scenario.My oldest is adopted, he's my SIL's kid. We took custody of him via the courts when DCF was too slow(shocking). Adopted him at 4 years old. Guns never came up though.