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Things you had to learn the hard way...

Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by StevieP, Aug 30, 2019.

  1. Saltydog

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    Good judgement comes from experience which most often comes from bad judgement
     
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    True, but learning from the mistakes of others, is a basic sign of intelligence in any animal.
     
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    Your boss will lie to you and about you.

    I work for an engineering consulting-type company. We say data is king, and our integrity is queen, but in reality WIIFM is Pope. In the past +33 years there I've been burned multiple times by dishonest managers.

    I'm thinking seriously about stepping out on my own part-time as a phased retirement. That way when my boss does lie I'll know who to b'tch-slap.
     
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    Loyalty is reserved for other people, never companies/corporations.
     
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    Never buy on impulse something better always comes along
     
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  6. Rob Boudrie

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    I had an employer ask me not to think about quitting since I was really needed (at the time).

    I was thinking "I wonder if a don't lay me off I need the job" message from an employee would have been received.

    Identical logic.
     
  7. PennyPincher

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    ^^^THIS^^^

    I never ignored my gut and then not regretted it!
     
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    Be very grateful of every moment with loved ones. You do not ever want to regret the last moments you spent with them.
     
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    I have one of these in my Quabbin boat. The boat is only 16.5 feet long, so space is at a premium. The first time I used it, I hit a limb going down the driveway and broke the tips off of several rods--yup, only the most expensive ones. Now I pull it out of the seat base and lay it down while traveling.

    [​IMG]
     
  10. Radtekk

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    There are two kinds of motorcycles. Those that have "been down" and those that habent been down YET. I'm on bike 5, so far still clean after 15 years. The first 4 ALL kissed the pavement. Every day I get on and wonder. Not paranoia, just realistic.
     
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    Always. vs. the worst women you could sink several boats and still be way ahead.
     
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    Jesus, Radtekk - you had to say this. I'm looking at my bike through my window right now as I read this.
    And now I'm thinking.
    • The CB500: dumped it the day before my first wedding
    • The Yamaha Vision: T-boned a left turning car
    • The Seca 750: One minor slide, then gave it my brother; he totaled it and walked away.
    • The FXRS: A couple minor dumps, a seriously lucky walk away with just roadside EMT, and a wreck with an extended hospital stay.
    My pretty FXR-2 sitting out there...
     
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    When you are sent to drive chairs to original manufacturer Hitchcock CT, check the stamp under the seat to make sure they really were made by Hitchcock.
     
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    After shredding my forehead on the corner of a toolbox side shelf, I realized it is important to look before you bend. 3" gash will forever remind me so I guess it ain't all that bad.
     
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    and do not take out or put in contact lenses after cutting jalapenos.

    no matter how much you wash......

    Never sell a car to a family member
    Never loan money to a family member
     
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    If I could put a 'Like' on this post with a multiplier of a million, I would. About loaning money..
     
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    the only good varmint poontang is dead varmint poontang, I think. -Carl Spackler
     
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    Don't volunteer to move stuff off the uhaul when your work moves offices. That's what movers are for.
     
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    THIS.

    They let my 7 year old daughter into the ER to see me when they decided that I was probably going to live. Seeing her stand there crying and shaking from head to toe as she looked at my blood covered face was a life changing moment for me. I promised her I'd never again drink and ride (or drive) again.

    It's one of very few promises I've made in my life. She's 26 now, I've driven once after having a drink since then - that was when my wife was the designated driver and she had a TIA - I drove her to the hospital. I told my daughter that I hadn't kept my promise, and exactly why.
     
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  20. Dennis in MA

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    About a decade ago, I had great seats to Fenway. Me and eldest daughter went. Had a blast.

    But instead of my truck, we took my wife's SUV. Smaller by a smidge to get around Boston. Parked at the Pru.

    As I was coming in, BAM! The Thule bars my wife left on the car hit the "Pru garage is only this tall" sign. Pulled into the emergency/whatever parking to take em off.

    About a minute later, some security dolt comes out. I'm up on the running boards unscrewing bars. "You can't park here." [rolleyes]

    I had to explain that either I'd muck up my car AND the paint job on the first crossbeam or give me 3 min to finish pulling the bars off the roof rack. In typical rent-a-cop fashion he just turned around and walked back into the office.
     
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    You CAN do that
    Just call it the proper name: a gift
     
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    That's what I do now.....
     
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    Experience is a cruel teacher. It gives a test before ever presenting the lesson.

    I guess I've done most of what's' mentioned here. Drove an SUV with rooftop carrier into a garage, dropped a MC once, did the whole pepper thing, the work thing..

    If I had one thing to add.. it's try to find a career that you love. The problem is the job changes over your 40 year working life. What you're interested in when you're 25 isn't necessarily what you like at 45, and it's tough to make a career move with a family and a mortgage.
     
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    Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn. C.S. Lewis

    Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards. Vernon Law
     
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    oh yeah.. Max out your 401k contribution the MINUTE you start working. Go without that daily latte or Friday night pizza. I wish someone had told me that at 25 yrs old. Might have 50% more in my 401k right now.
     
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    Not everyone with their signal on is turning
     
  27. Spanz

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    agreed.
    also...remember that "Past performance is no indication of future performance" of any sort of mutual fund or stock. it it is diving in price, sell that suckah...do not fall in love with it and hold it till it is worth pennies.
     
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    i get reminded of that one just about every week
     
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  29. Dennis in MA

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    I had one a few weeks ago. There is a bear-right turn on 140 and a gas station just beyond. You can make the turn at speed. And about 1/3-1/2 of the traffic going south on 140 TAKES the turn.

    Guy coming at speed. Puts his blinker on a good 150-200yds ahead. I start pulling out. He's going to do a brake-slam into the gas station. He gave ME the finger. LOL. Had he slowed down like a normal person AND/OR put his blinker on at the proper distance for the gas station (instead of early for the bear-right), I'd have figured it out.

    He seemed like the type of guy that is constantly shocked that people actually react to his driving ability and style. LOL
     
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    Beer and milk don't mix.
     
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