I get it. It pisses you off. But sometimes, you have to be the "better man." I've taken plenty of hits in my day that were greatly undeserved. They hurt. But I'd rather be known as the person that stands by the other victims and protects the weak than the one that ALSO pisses on the graves of the innocents.
Not-so-quick aside:
One time a million years ago, I was a church leader. In a bizarre series of events, I somehow was accused of claiming that the mother of a fellow-leader was a massive gossip. I didn't say it exactly that way. But she was, in any event. It was widely known in the church. Like MEGA known. Son took a nutty.
Apologized profusely to him (which he didn't accept at the time). I KNEW he'd call Mommy so the next day I called mommy and apologized to her directly. For something said in a CLOSED DOOR FREAKING MEETING. (Which, if you haven't guessed - gossip. Amazing where he learned it all.)
Son looked at me askance the remainder of my time there. Mom tried to hold it over my head. HER mom looked at me with daggers. (Son is THIRD generation gossip, at least.)
Now, here's the real story - the leader's DAD used to be on the board. We would have a sensitive thing to discuss. Dad would say, "I really shouldn't be here. When I get home, my wife is going to MAKE me tell her and then get on the phone for the next two days." He would mention it REGULARLY. Why the board kept him was beyond me. (Why in our infinite wisdom we allowed Jr. is also beyond me, but it was on my watch so I'll take some responsibility.)
There were FOUR other guys that were on the board with me and Dad. They all knew about Dad. No one came to my aid. They watched as if it was a reality TV show. Not one in the meeting defended me. Not one pulled Jr. aside after and told him quietly what was what.
I shut my mouth and took my lumps. And for being colossal d-words, they kind of deserved me revealing what Dad had said a few years earlier. The chaos would have been epic in the family. But what was said in that leader's room was meant to STAY there. Despite Son and Dad violating that, to reveal the truth would break my original agreement to keep all that quiet.
Oh, and the family is nutty as squirrel poop. LOL
One wonders why I still believe in an all-loving God and avoid church like the plague. ROFL!!!!!
