Uh, I didn't know just asking for money was an option. Also assumed it was an option to say no. Though the flip side is my mother joked her wedding gift was that my grandparents paid back the money she loaned them. (They had a flood and needed cash, she loaned it. Was surprised day of wedding that they paid it back early.) Yeah my in laws got caught on this. They unexpectedly had to close fast and for more than planned on a family house. A bunch of talking to the bank about which dollars they were most comfortable taking the down payment from.