I promised some detail information regarding this thread. Here are some definitions/explanations that might (or might not) help:
Separately Derived System: An electrical source, other than a service, having no direct connection(s) to circuit conductors of any other electrical source other than those established by grounding and bonding connections. Examples include PV systems, generators, battery rooms/inverters, and most commonly dry-type transformers.
Grounded Conductor: A system or circuit conductor that is intentionally grounded. Easier recognized as a "neutral" conductor for discussion here. Typically identified by white or gray insulation depending on the voltage system.
Grounding Conductor, Equipment: A conductive path(s) that is a part of an effective ground-fault current path and connects normally non-current carrying metal parts of equipment and to the system grounded conductor or to the grounding electrode conductor or both. Typically identified by green insulation.
Grounding Electrode: A conducting object through which a direct connection to earth is established. Typically the underground copper water pipe supplying a building. Far less effective are ground rods driven into the earth.
Grounding Electrode Conductor: A conductor used to connect the system grounded conductor or the equipment to a grounding electrode or to a point on the grounding electrode system.
A few facts:
Almost all residential generators, including larger (15kW and up) sizes are installed without a separate grounding electrode (ground rod) at the generator. They connect single phase, four wire to the premises wiring system through a permanently installed automatic transfer system or a cord and plug connected temporary connection to an interlocked auxiliary breaker or transfer panel. Bypassing any of these safety systems puts personnel on and off of your property, including linemen on the secondary and (contrary to comments made here in this thread) primary sides of their systems at risk, and guess who's responsible?
Your most important considerations when choosing/installing a generator are:
1. Electrical Safety
2. Carbon Monoxide Safety
3. Ability to power the important load(s).
4. Fuel Efficiency.
My recommendation to the OP here is to purchase a Honda eu2200 inverter generator. Locate it an appropriate distance from your home and lock it to a large immovable object. Run good quality cords to the required loads. Have an electrician install safe and appropriate connections to equipment like your boiler or furnace. (Palladin is highly recommended on this site.) If you need more power, a second "companion" Honda eu2200 can be installed with a parallel kit to double your power. Your main limitation with this setup is that you will only have 120v available so a well pump, electric range or dryer, or large AC unit will not work. These small Honda inverter generators run for many hours on little fuel, are portable, and adjust their speed and noise based on your load.
Good luck.
Chris