sks...have you ever had to deal with someone who goes off the deep end? You're lucky if you have the time to take a breath between the verbal attack and the physical one. WE don't know the son started the fight. What we do know is that the husband went after the son. We don't know what the son said or did - and chances are when your dealing with someone who's abusive it doesn't take ANYTHING to set them off. Don't you understand this? Evidently not. <sigh> It's times like this that I wished I had video of how my "X" acted. He'd put Jekyl and Hide to shame in his shifts of calm to anger. I've said it before and I'll say it again...until you've walked in those moccasins, you don't know and can't understand.
As far as I'm concerned...and to steal from drgrant...these fries are done.
I'm not the one that invented that, but you can use it however you
want.
All kidding aside I agree with you wholeheartedly, Lynne... I have a close
friend of mine who has also been a victim of this kind of thing, and the
circumstances/outcomes are not simplistic or pretty. If this lady truly
was abused, then this is basically the end of a long road for her... and it
is an issue which, can often only be resolved by doing what she did. There
are cases of abuse out there where flinging a 209A at someone isn't going
to do much except result in the wrong person getting killed or hurt
more. Relationship trouble/abuse is its own kind of complicated
hell that is rarely understood by outsiders... and that goes for men
being the victims as well as women. (although with men as the victims
from what ive seen its more mental/verbal than it is physical, although I
think there are a lot of men that get beat up, but they're too ashamed to admit it to anyone. )
-Mike