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I told them - nicely - I expected them to take care of my daughter and there would be consequences if they didn't.When you inevitably meet any of her boyfriends, tell him that anything he does to her you'll do to him. Gotta follow through though, empty threats are worthless.
Sounds like it's pretty much out of your hands now. The best you can do is make sure she knows you love her and have her best interests at heart. Orders or threats will likely backfire.All that needs to be added is lime. This is killing me. My daughter hasn’t been up to see us for a while. I got her school pictures and she didn’t tell me she got a nose piercing and had green highlights in her hair. I told her what I expect of the boyfriend. I hope it sticks.
^^^ This.Keep telling her but tell her by asking.
"Is he being a gentleman?"
"Does he hold the door for you?"
"Does he treat your mother with respect?"
"Does he get you home on time?"
The more you ask her, the more she'll ask herself. Also, asking questions is being concerned rather than trying to control which could cause her to pull away.
A fair comment. I was more concerned for my son than for my daughter actually. My son got a very thorough briefing on 0bama's disgusting letter to colleges and false rape accusations before he went to college.This is weird. But the only thing I can add to this post is for the fathers of sons who are dating.
Tell them when the do the right thing and shake the dads hand and he limpfishes, run away.
I've almost been destroyed twice by not following that rule.
Actually. Shit . Yeah I have been destroyed twice.
Okay. Sticking to my comment.
Don't take offense to this, but the first thing I thought of when I read this was "why haven't you gone down (wherever down is) to see her? Does she have a stepfather or someone who is in her life everyday? How does that person treat her mother? That seems like the person who she would correlate how women/girls should be treated and know where the bar should be set, which should be set high.All that needs to be added is lime. This is killing me. My daughter hasn’t been up to see us for a while. I got her school pictures and she didn’t tell me she got a nose piercing and had green highlights in her hair. I told her what I expect of the boyfriend. I hope it sticks.