Since when does a man leave a woman because her parents don't like him or disagree with him politically? Jesus, talk about ceding control to someone else!
My wife's parents are Obama supporters and worse than that, Yankees fans. They've learned not to discuss politics with me, no point, and they've learned not to give my children Yankees gear (it goes in the garbage) My wife respects me for standing up to her father. It's possible to disagree with someone and still have a cordial relationship with them.
Besides, you don't want in-laws hanging around your house even if they DO agree with you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that. We see them once a year at most.
Since when? Since he's not married yet. I don't know the people in question so I'm only talking in general terms. However, in general a person has to take the whole picture into account before they marry- does he really want to be tied to those inlaws for decades, for example?
See, I see several warning signs-
-parents who are Obama supporters (overwhelmingly emotion-based type thinking, you can't reason with these types, and they think they have a right to get into your business- etc etc.)
-a potential wife who runs to daddy for support/advice about a matter that is between her and her fiance
-a dad who thinks that he needs to talk to his daughter's fiance about matters that are between her and her fiance
It says to me that the wife is not acting as adult as she needs to, in order to make a healthy marriage. It says to me that the parents are still thinking of her as their little girl, not a grown woman who can make her own decisions. Those are all big red flags to me.
Now if the parents aren't going to be in the same town or the next town over, and the fiance isn't going to keep running to them with her problems- which would take some solid evidence before that can be determined, because she's shown that she does that- then it could work out fine.
Hey, I'm the queen of disagreeing with relatives and getting along. I am just about polar opposites with ALL my relatives/inlaws on most any major subject- religion, guns, politics, (sports bores me to tears.) Most of those things I don't even agree with DH on- he's "unhappy about" (read, severely against) my getting and wearing a handgun at all- and we make things work. Everybody's cordial and the once or twice yearly visits and more frequent calls go fine. And a key part of it is that my inlaws don't feel the need to butt into our marriage whatsoever, they are very good about letting us do our thing even though it might disagree with them. So it can happen, sure, but I'm just saying that I think there are red flags here and since they aren't married yet then it might be time to rethink that.
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